1. Embrace changes.
The World that we live in is forever changing, a prime example is have you tried to buy a packet of crisps for 10p lately? It's not just inflation (including inflation of peoples egos!) that are creating changes but it's everything around us, including ourselves.
I am a completely different person today than I was five years ago. Before Dean passed away, I was such a negative person. I was far too organised and structured (although I still am fairly organised) and I was a whole lot more moody (I know it's debateable at times as to whether that has changed much).
However, now I appreciate life so much more. I don't get stressed if things don't go to plan. I like the fact that I create my own destiny. Although change can often be a little scary, it's also an opportunity to really prove to yourself and others how adaptable you are.
2. Failure is not an option.
This sounds like quite a negative thing but it's actually not meant that way. Regardless what you set out to do, if you don't reach the original goal that you set, it doesn't mean you have failed it just means you've re-written the plan.
So long as you learn from things in life, I think something shouldn't be seen as a failure. It just means that the plan changed. I believe you can learn from other peoples mistakes or errors too.
3. Forgive and forget.
As human beings, we will mess up at times. As above, so long as we learn from these lessons then it's worth working through.
Sometimes other people may let you down, I think so long as it is not intentional then we should learn to accept these occasional disappointments.
There are a few things that I could never forgive and forget, cheating is one of them. If you have made the commitment to be with someone, then you should honour that. If you feel the need to cheat then something is wrong with your relationship and you either need to address the issue or accept it is not working and move on.
Another thing I will not tolerate is violent and/or controlling behaviour. No one has the right to manipulate and control others. I dealt with that for a long time and I've vowed to myself I will never do it again.
A little motto I do live by is "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". I'm happy to forgive once but you don't get more chances after that.
4. Love yourself.
I don't mean this is a naughty kind of way (although if you're single for a while then I guess needs must!) but more you need to be happy and healthy with the person that you are.
I think I'm still working on this one. I like myself as a person, I know I'm a good person that cares for others but sometimes I am so bad at accepting compliments - I just don't believe them.
I know no one is perfect, and I certainly wouldn't want to be perfect but when people say nice things about me I assume there is some ulterior motive which is a sad way of viewing life.
If you don't love and understand yourself, how can you expect other people to love and understand you?
There is a fine balance though between being confident with yourself, and being an arrogant twat. The latter is not required in my life!
5. Opposites attract.
As with everything in life, this one is in moderation. Some people think that you should only date someone where you have loads in common. I do think you need to have some things in common to have those shared interests you can enjoy together, but equally you need to have your own thing.
I think why I like the opposites attract thing is because it allows you to learn more about someone and also about yourself.
Obviously there are something's that really won't work, for example if someone was heavily into drugs then I would not want to be involved with them as I am very anti-drugs. But if someone likes a different type of music to you, you may broaden your knowledge by sharing what they enjoy.
By both having your own interests, it means you remain as an individual but you also have the ability to grow as a couple (if you're dating that is!).
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