You would think these comments would come from people that don't really know me but sadly that's not always the case.
I'm sure some people mean well when they say that they can't believe I'm single. Usually it's followed by some backhanded compliment like "Oh but you're so pretty" but I can see their little brains turning wondering whether I'm the bitch from hell or possibly have three nipples (FYI I don't have three nipples!).
The worst offender, I'm going to say, is my Mother. When I say I'm going away, she's stopped asking who with and now it's "Alone again?". Yes Mother, your 29 year old daughter is heading to Madrid for the weekend - alone.
It's terrible when she keeps asking me when will I have babies? I haven't had the heart to explain that the whole baby making process requires someone with a XX chromosome too (You'd think after four children she would understand this!).
I'm convinced she thinks I could pop into a shop and buy a baby the same way I would go and buy a LV handbag. Which, let's be honest, if I had a baby my lovely handbag collect would be replaced with a Mama and Papas nappy changing bag (unless Burberry sell changing bags?).
I'm haven't told her about my appointment next week to become an egg donor. I'm not sure if she'll understand why I'm giving away my perfect healthy (well that's a huge assumption but we'll soon fine out) eggs to a complete stranger when I haven't had a child myself.
I would like to think she could understand the maternal desire some people have to have their own children... then I remember this is my mother we're talking about!
I have seen some of my closest friends struggle to fall pregnant so I really hope I'm able to help happy couples become parents.
Back to the perks of being single. My king size bed - all mine! Ok that's a fib as Shiloh may occasionally (always) sleep on the bed. But the thought of sharing my bed with a boy (yuck!) is rather alarming. I've become far too complacent.
Another perk is the ability to choose whatever film I feel like watching without judgement. If I feel like watching three Disney films in a row on a lazy Sunday (the chance would be a fine thing!) then I want to do that without someone judging my note taking of how the beautiful Princess always finds her Prince Charming (and without the use of Tinder).
Although there are some good points to being single, I guess there are some downfalls too. Especially with Christmas coming up, it would be nice to get into the Christmas spirit with someone else.
One of my Christmas traditions, is to watch Love Actually. I watch it around Christmas time every year and for me that's the start of the holiday season. It would be nice to be snuggled on the sofa next to someone and watch it.
Also I'm having an operation in January on my foot and it would be nice knowing that someone is thinking of me and could be there for me when I'm recovering.
The best thing about being single though is the possibility of meeting someone new. When you are actively seeking someone by using these dating apps, the thrill is slightly lost as it's expected. But when you just meet someone nice that you get along with, someone who makes you laugh and you can speak on the phone to, for say three hours at a time, then that's nice... Very nice :-)
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