He's just not that into you

I've just watched this film again and it's so funny! I love it because it's so honest and, up until the end, it's pretty accurate. 

We do it all the time, we obsess over why he hasn't called. And now because we are so 'switched on' we know it would be very rare for him to run out of battery, loss your contact details or lose his phone all together.

Online research (sounds much nicer than stalking) is made so simple these days. Take what's app for example, you can see when someone was last online, you can see what time they read your message and you can even see if they are typing a reply. 

They say knowledge is power but sometimes it's simply too much! The fact that you can see that someone has read your message but hasn't bothered to reply, can really knock your confidence.

One of the biggest problems with modern dating is the fact that people are not honest. Well not everyone is not honest, annoyingly I am far too honest. I would much rather be too honest than lie to people.

I think when it comes to dating, especially early on, you sometimes need to be a little more reserved. Perhaps that's something I need to work on.

The film reminded me how when we speak to our friends about dating, they always try to passify us. I know they mean well but sometimes honesty is the best way forward.

If you are telling your friend about this great guy that said he'd call but then he doesn't, it's much better to say actually maybe he changed his mind or is seeing someone else than it is to say he may have lost your number.

My sister has been very honest a few times with me. And funny enough, I've sometimes taken it the wrong way. I've said about seeing a guy and then not not hearing from him, and she's said maybe he was married. Ok sounds harsh but it could sadly be true.

I think being honest is a good thing, it can be harsh sometimes but in the long run its better. Being honest with yourself is the most important.

We are own worst critic and it's important to be kind to yourself whilst remaining honest. I'm enjoying being brutally honest with myself as I think the more you learn about yourself, the more you can be open to someone else.