"I like children but I couldn't eat a whole one".

That 'phrase' I grew up with, do you know who used to say that to me, my father! So it probably makes sense why I am not so sure whether I would like children or not.

I honestly think most people know whether they want children or not from a young age. My sister Tammey, always wanted to be a mother - and she's a great one. I think some people just know that they want little mini me's.

I have never been 100% sure about whether I do or do not want children. The fact that I don't have children shows I've been very careful not to have a child. I do have very strong views about having children, I would want to be in a loving, stable marriage before I consider having children.

I don't think I could cope with being a single parent. I have so much respect for single parents as they have such a difficult job. Actually, it's difficult to explain without sounding like a bitch but I don't agree with women trying to trap a man by having a child or I don't agree with women who have unprotected sex and don't care either way if they have a child.

I respect the women who didn't choose to be a single parent but it was thrown upon them. Maybe they've been widow, or divorce or they simply fell for the wrong arsehole man who lead them on.

Even throughout my marriage, I knew it wouldn't have been right to have a child with Dean. I think he wanted children but our relationship wasn't the healthiest so I don't think it would have been the best environment to bring a child into.

Something M said to me which stuck me was that I was only a girl (not a women) because I don't have children. I was naturally really offended by this. The fact that I've not wanted to have a child with a man that was wrong for me, makes me sensible, clever and certainly more of a women than a silly girl having a child to try and keep a man.

I'm not even sure why I'm worrying about the idea of having children or not. It's not something I am currently in a position to act upon. I will always stick to my views of not having children outside of wedlock. I can't even attract a decent man to date so let alone any wedding bells in the near future.

Maybe it's the fact that I'm approaching 30 and I thought my life would be figured out by now but if you think about it, I could live till I'm 90 so I'm only a third of my life in. I've got plenty more time to consider children.

I just find it interesting that I honestly don't know whether I do actually want children. I keep thinking maybe if I meet the right man, then I will know for sure but honestly would I? I seem to mirror quite easily what the other person wants.

I just wonder how other people feel, did you know for sure you wanted children or did it just happen?

I found this helpful flow chart to help me decide. The sleep has won it!!